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一位竹科人的心聲,因為最近聽到一些事情,覺得很感觸,                                                                            
所以寫給大家參考參考,當然這不是針對台北的女生,             
只是我認識的,剛好都是台北的女孩。                     
                                                                           
前兩天,我同事跟我說他要結婚了,                      
                                                                           
婚期就定在下個月中,我有點surprise。                    
                                                                           
不過心想追了快兩年,也應該有個美好的結局了吧!               
                                                                           
可是他接下來說:                              
                                                                           
新娘卻不是我們所熟知的那個女生,                      
                                                                           
而是三個月前回南部相親的一位女孩。                     
                                                                           
我雖覺得有震驚,但心裡也早知道會又這樣的結局了,              
                                                                           
兩年前,我們也是在板上徵聯誼,對象是一群音樂老師,             
                                                                           
有氣質,外貌也還不錯,當然我們也還OK!                  
                                                                           
新竹園區上市公司的科技新貴,也聊的蠻開心的,                
                                                                           
之後我同事就開始追求其中的一個女生,                    
                                                                           
兩年不算短的時間,期間我們也曾試圖幫忙跟勸退他。              
                                                                           
女生的回答是:他的工作、學歷、外在等等都不錯,               
                                                                           
對她也不錯,可是她總覺得自己應該會嫁個條件更好的,             
                                                                           
所以就還是當普通朋友先,我心想每個人都有自己的堅持。            
                                                                           
可是想想,除了豪門外,一個平凡家庭出生的,                 
                                                                           
國立大學研究所、一流的公司,                        
                                                                           
個性又好,外在也不差的人,實在不曉得還欠缺了甚麼。             
                                                                           
問我同事,為甚麼不放棄,                          
                                                                           
以你的條件應該有有不少的好條件的女生會喜歡才是。              
                                                                           
他給我的回答是:從小他的幸福家庭就是美美的妻子在家裡,           
                                                                           
教孩子彈鋼琴。                               
                                                                           
這也是他的堅持吧!兩年過去了,他今年31,她今年也27了,          
                                                                           
期間他堅持的理念,努力的改變自己,努力的工作,               
                                                                           
努力的變的更優秀,希望能博得芳心,                     
                                                                           
而她也堅持自己的理想,努力的找自己的白馬王子。               
                                                                           
2003年3月,一通南部家裡的電話,把他叫了回去,               
                                                                           
百般拒絕相親的他,拗不過親情攻勢,還是去了。                
                                                                           
決定四個月後結婚的他,告訴我們對象是南部地主的獨生女,           
                                                                           
學音樂的,不過是在國外,今年25歲,                    
                                                                           
雖然不是那種很漂亮的,但長相清秀,                     
                                                                           
很耐看,看起來很舒服,而且超級溫柔的,聽得我們心癢癢的。          
                                                                           
看他言語中,那種幸福的笑容,真的很為他高興,                
                                                                           
跟之前悶悶不樂的樣子,他已經走出了自己。                  
                                                                           
當我告訴她,我同事要結婚的消息,                      
                                                                           
﹝我同事拜託我轉達這消息,告訴她他已經找到幸福了,             
                                                                           
希望有一天她也能找到自己的幸福。﹞                     
                                                                           
電話那頭,我知道她震驚、難過、失落、流淚諸多情緒交織在一起,        
                                                                           
曾經是自己愛理不理的,如今卻是人家的老公了。                
                                                                           
兩年的日子,她認識男生一個接一個,但是隨年齡的增長,            
                                                                           
好的男人都被手腳快的女生訂下來了,                     
                                                                           
剩下的不是條件一個比一個差,                        
                                                                           
要不然就是大男人,要求東要求西的。                     
                                                                           
她很後悔,但也是無可奈何,只好繼續在婚友社裡流浪著,            
                                                                           
曾經我們都很看好他們應該有個不錯的結局,如今......。            
                                                                           
如同之前網路上刊登的找不到好男人的文章,                  
                                                                           
我覺得在現今時代,                             
                                                                           
女生不能再用之前高標準的心態來衡量你的另一伴了,              
                                                                           
高學歷、高收入已經不再是男生的特權了。                   
                                                                           
試問如果還要找比自己更好的男生,試問這樣的人有多少呢?           
                                                                           
況且這樣的男生難道不會如前篇文章所寫的,                  
                                                                           
去找更年輕、更漂亮的女生嗎?                        
                                                                           
這樣的男生你們會嫁的安心嗎?                        
                                                                           
很慶幸的,我老妹在去年嫁掉了,                       
                                                                           
這樣說好像有點那個,不過我倒是她覺得很聰明。               
2002年11月她結婚了,26歲吧!                        
                                                                           
在我們的眼裡似乎有點早,我們都勸她不要這麼早嫁人。             
                                                                           
我老妹是一流國立大學外文系畢業,                      
                                                                           
外在算是美女級的,可是妹婿也還好,                     
                                                                           
在園區當小公司的小主管,外在我們都覺得有點鮮花插在牛糞上。         
                                                                           
這樣說有點不道德,自己的妹妹嘛!                      
                                                                           
婚前也不意思問她甚麼,之後問她,                      
                                                                           
她告訴我“急流勇退“是多麼難做到的一件事呀!                 
                                                                           
她說外在、學歷都會隨著年齡的增長而褪去了光環,               
                                                                           
試問有幾個男生會去娶一個高學歷跟能力、三十歲的女人呢?           
                                                                           
除非是要吃軟飯                               
                                                                           
﹝對不起,這是引述我妹說的話,不代表個人立場﹞,               
                                                                           
找一個對自己好的又不至於讓自己餓肚子的男生,                
                                                                           
這就是簡單的幸福呀!你還不是如此,                     
                                                                           
是的!的確如此,曾經也在網友版流連忘返的我。
 
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